Thursday, May 29, 2008
Saturday, May 24, 2008
2. Each player answers the questions about themselves.
3. At the end of the post, the player then tags five people and posts their names, then goes to their blogs and leaves them a comment, letting them know they’ve been tagged and asking them to read the player’s blog.
4. Let the person who tagged you know when you’ve posted your answer
What were you doing five years ago?
I was working hard at my job and enjoying it except for one crazy lying backstabbing assistant manager I had working for me. I was engaged and making plans, although we had not set a date yet. (For those of you that know me know that obviously did not work out) My boys were 14 and 10. My oldest one was restless, and learning how to drive. I HAD NO INCLINATION TOWARDS ADOPTION, MUCH LESS HAITIAN ADOPTION. If you had told me that five years ago, I'd have said you were crazy!
What are 5 things on your to-do list today?
It's Saturday, and a 3 day holiday week-end so: 1.) Go to the bank 2.)Go to the flea market 3.)Put the flag out 4.)Clean house, as always 5.)Grocery shopping
What are 5 snacks you enjoy?
Peanut butter, frozen yogurt, apples, Reese's mini peanut butter cups, and it used to be diet coke, but I gave it up about 6 weeks ago COLD TURKEY!
What are 5 of your bad habits?
Procrastination, too much computer time, rationalizing why I don't have time to exercise, not taking control of my finances and then spending too much money, letting the housework pile up.
What 5 things would I do if I was a billionaire?
Obviously I would pay off my bills. I would renovate an old house. I would hire a housekeeper! I would pay off my mother's and sibling's mortgages. I would set up local scholarships. I would set up trust funds for my adopted children, nieces, & nephews educations. I would adopt at least one more child. I would travel with friends and family. I would buy a sexy car. I would buy at least one vacation property. I would take classes at the Cordon Bleu in Paris. I would set up charities for 3rd world countries. I would invest enough of it in order to keep on. And, I would hire an accountant!
That's more than 5---do you think I've ever thought of this before?
Where are 5 places you have lived?
Plumas County, CA, Sacramento, CA, the greater East Bay (Area) CA, Redding, CA, Oconee County, Georgia.
What are 5 jobs you have had?
Maid, waitress, maitre'd, restaurant manager, retail manager, housewife.
I actually liked being a housewife best.
What 5 people do you want to tag?
lila and Cindy (hey were traveling together soon, now they know all about me, it's only fair!) Janet, Mandy, and Steph!
Sunday, May 18, 2008
This is not fully mentioned in the video, but when Cindy McCain went to Bangladesh to work with Mother Theresa, and got involved with her orphanage, she made the decision to bring this child home for medical treatment and also to adopt her. She says she knew she had to do it. She did not tell her husband John until she arrived back in the US with her baby bundle. He accepted the situation and said OK! (I'm sure there was more to it than that, but that was the outcome...) Wow! Now that's impressive!
Thursday, May 15, 2008
I sent them dolls.
W likes dolls
Not so sure about Baby Girl. She likes to take things apart, she likes to play, she likes alot of attention. Which of course, she gets when I am there.
Only 35 more days, and I will be there! I feel better about making this trip, being out of IBESR. In fact, I feel better about EVERYTHING, being out! It has been a long wait. Because that is the office that approves the adoption. If you don't get past that, it's over. I was not worried about my qualifications, but there is so much resistance to adoption nowadays, with all kinds of pressure coming from all kinds of groups, you just don't know what is going to happen. And when it takes twice as long as it is supposed to, it's gets worrisome. You try to have faith and be positive, but in my case I saw people that I knew starting to come out that went in months after I did. I am very grateful that I am working with a person that stays on the case(s) does ALL THAT SHE CAN to get these kids home. She is all about the kids. It is impossible for me to express in words my full admiration for this woman.
I hope that the next phase will be speedy, or at least reasonable. And the next, and the last, as far as that goes. By speedy, I'm talking about Christmas. I would love to have them home for Christmas.
Tuesday, May 13, 2008
The post also said she was readying our file for the next stage, Parquet.
For any Haitian adopters reading this, I have heard of four families from our orphanage, including me, that were released this week. I know at least 3 of us have bio kids. So yes, there is movement, finally!
Sunday, May 11, 2008
Yesterday was commencement at the university, and I had to go in to make sure our little piece of the campus puzzle was functioning correctly. Supreme Court Justice Clarence Thomas was the commencement speaker. I watched him from the air-conditioned sanctity of the Tate Theater. The local paper wrote the story . Here is the thing that struck me, once again. It's about segregation. Because Justice Thomas is of a certain age, and because he was raised in Georgia, he could not attend the very university that he gave his speech at yesterday. Having spent most of my life in a different part of the country, I never thought about segregation much, except as as afterthought, a page in the history book, something that happened a long time ago, far away, practically in another country! It was certainly not anything that had anything to do with my life! I thought it was terrible in theory, but I was very dissociated from it. After I moved here, I met many people, not that much older than me, that had lived that life, right here in our Big University Town.
It really hit me. Segregation is something that is not so long ago or far away, and it left vast scars on this entire region. I don't say this to point fingers, or to blame. It actually is amazing how far our society has come after breaking down that last tangible barrier. In my mind, segregation is the last scar. When it was defeated, it was the final true barrier to equality. Justice Thomas is a fine example of achievement, someone who has lived to see the change.
Cultural barriers exist still. However, thankfully, the law no longer supports racism and division.
Normally I would post these next pictures on my other blog, but I have a point to make. I had to get my feelings out on my last post. They were encompassing my life to the point of exclusion. Afterwards, I felt better, but I also felt a strong desire to post something positive, or profound, or at least exciting! But I had nothing inside me. I had to wait.
Yesterday at commencement I was looking for a place to park. What a joke! I found a place a long way from the stadium and enjoyed (not) a good hike in the heat. Where I parked was near a place I had not been in a long time.
The Warnell Garden is somewhat hidden. I used to come here many years ago when I worked at another location on campus, to alleviate my stress. I remembered how I would sit on the wall and pray and meditate and fight to bring my BP down! I have not forgotten about this place, but I had not come here in so many years, as it is not so conveinent. It is so peaceful. I need to start coming here again!
View of the pond
Do you see the turtle?
Now you do!
I like to sit on this wall
Beautiful Oakleaf Hydrangea
Wednesday, May 7, 2008
The other thing going on is lots of "yucky stuff" (as L.K. says) at work. Oh boy. I posted a few weeks ago on my "MeMe" that I was burnt out and depressed about my job. I had been feeling that way for awhile, and had just finally admitted it in print. Within days my world began to tilt wildly. My colleagues and I heard rumors that our new "boss" (actually my direct supervisor's superior) was going to move us around---and I can assure you this was not going to be a promotion. It would not have been a true demotion but it would have been perceived as one. Which really irked me because I have 12 years of outstanding evaluations behind me, and I have not been told by ANYONE I'm not doing my job. We heard about all this because the "boss boss" unloaded that information on another group of colleagues in a meeting, which was completely unethical. And, of course, the information was leaked. So I confronted our direct superior about it, and unfortunately, he knew less about it than the people on the receiving end of that meeting, and he technically out-ranks that group. He does not have alot of backbone usually, but I was white hot, (not in a sexy way) and I think he was afraid of what I was going to do next, (meet with the Department Head) so he took it to the "boss boss". I will tell you here that I started really appreciating my job, even though I have faced terrible obstacles in the last few years, and I started praying that she would not go thru with the moving around. I prayed and prayed, but my colleagues told me they felt it was hopeless. I was scared, but I prayed anyway. By the end of the week, she made the decision to keep us where we were, and it blew everyone away. I was blown away by the power of prayer, because I can tell you my faith was weak and I think non-existent for some of my peers, as well as our supervisor. He did not seem to have much faith that he could turn it around, which is sad, because it's "his" operation and we are "his" people! And, after his meeting with her, he gave his resignation so I really have no idea what happened in there. Oh, the drama. Oh the trauma. There is so much more to this, and it is ongoing, but I would have to publish a book, and I am not going to do that today, so I won't go there. Besides, the book would be rated "R", if books had ratings. I try to stay away from "R" ratings on this blog!
The upside is that it has renewed my enthusiasm for my job. It has boosted my faith in the power of prayer. It makes me want to go to work when I wake up in the morning, and all of this is good.